I awfully much enjoyed this funny, revealing, wacky, heart-rending article about motherhood by Sandra Tsing Loh, but what about this sentence?
To be a mother—even simply to be a woman—in today’s world is to be made exhausted and resentful by a role or set of roles that we don’t recall deliberately choosing.When I read this before Christmas I thought--Not Me. I love being a mother. In fact, I love being a mother more than anything else. I don't feel resentful about the role--in fact, I feel grateful. Gratitude comes to mind all the time, in the middle of doing all sorts of things.
So .... how is it that last night I was standing around in the local Hobby Lobby feeling resentful? You see, I was trying to find just the right model rocket for my son to take to school. He couldn't come with me on the shopping trip, so I was yelling into a malfunctioning cell phone about rocket engines and skill levels, and all sorts of other tedious stuff. It seems there was a sheet of paper he was supposed to have shown me, but didn't.
This brought to mind many other trips to places like that, like the time when my son had to make a model of the Roman coliseum. I can't say that making a model of the Roman coliseum was really on my list of things to
It isn't really anything inherent to parenthood that I resent (much less motherhood). My husband and I resent the teachers who tell kids to go home and build a Roman coliseum. We resent the fact that they tell kids to do science fair projects, knowing full well they're assigning the job partly to parents. We resent being expected to enforce the orders of teachers who never, ever ask for parent input. ("Parent Teacher Association"--bah! ) We resent having to crack the whip for hours every school night, getting our kids to complete the 50 math problems, or the endless, mind-numbing worksheets, or preparation for yet another state exam. In short, we resent the way teachers invade family life, without always having a good reason for doing so.
But what about playing the basic role of mother? Is it really true that to be a mother is to be made resentful? OK mothers, be honest. Do you agree with Sandra?